My man is a baby... why women think men should grow up.

So you're a woman.

You walk in to your apartment/house to find your husband/boyfriend playing videogames/watching cartoons.

"Oh my god, he's dragging me to another Avengers movie."
"If I see one more movie about planets that don't exist I will kill myself."
"Avatar. What a pile of crap." "Star Wars... ridiculous...."

Does this sound familiar?

And the obvious conclusion becomes this:

"Why won't my boyfriend/husband grow up?"

ANSWER: He isn't acting like a child. He doesn't need to grow up at all.

#Shock# you say. #Horror# I hear.

When Bob Kane first created Batman he was in his mid twenties. Along with Seigel and Schuster (Superman). Walt Disney was in his late thirties to early forties when he conceived Disney Land. Stan Lee was in his forties when he was Art Director on Marvel titles (X-men, Fantastic Four, Spider-man).

The point is this: Ladies, you are in the belief system that your husband/boyfriend is trapped in some Peter Pan complex when the simple truth is that there is no Peter Pan complex. All this material that is supposedly designed "for children" is created by adults. Children don't create these works of art. Adults do. Highly respected, well paid artists. I think some of the youngest, biggest talent to emerge in the comic/graphic world (Joe Mad - one of my personal heroes) were in there late teens to twenties regardless and are growing and still making an excellent career for their obsession with escapism. Because that's what it is. It's not about "only kids will like this." Have you even seen Ninja Scroll or Cowboy Bebop? It's about Art. Escapism in Art. Their is nothing childish in that.

Next point is: wouldn't you rather see your husband/boyfriend reading a comic or playing a game then lying to you and going off somewhere with his mates doing who knows what?
Do men ever say to women: "Stop painting your face with crayons and grow up."

No.

Men aren't babies. What's more childish is looking for drama where there needn't be drama.
As men; We need escape. We need Turtles. We need Batman. And you need us to need these things.

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 -- James